Do you give yourself permission to be you, to do the things you want in your life, or even have the things you want in your life?
If not, whose permission are you waiting for and why?
We are constantly following the rules, blindly without questioning we have accepted everything as is.
We are so used to suppress our own passions and dreams because we fear looking odd, we fear being judged, standing out, being different.
We don’t give ourselves permission to follow our hearts but instead we look for validation and approvals from others. Family, friends, bosses, the society.
We wait for permission from other people to tell us that it’s OKAY before we even consider going after what we truly want in life.
Its the reason why so many of us are unhappy today
We don’t even realize that we are suppressing our own wants, we just carry on afraid to speak and live our own truth. We carry on as if there is unwritten code that says its ok to be unhappy as long as we are not going against the shoulds that we have been trained very well to believe.
It’s no wonder why so many of us are unhappy today,feeling and suffering anxiety because of these conflicting views between our own truth and what the rules imposed by the society tells us. This then affects the relationships we have with ourselves and others. We start to hate our selves and start living with feelings of unworthiness and dissatisfaction
And in the end, we start resenting ourselves and the people whose validation and approval we once seek.
Breakaway from the need to fit in
Before I was able to break away from the need to wait for permission to do what I truly wanted, I limited myself and my choices in so many ways
To give you a few examples
- I would wait for someone to say they loved or agreed with whatever it is I was working on before I allowed myself to fully pursue my interests and passions, especially when I started writing or stating my own business.
- I was always afraid to be myself because I didn’t want anyone to think I was weird or for anyone to think I was different- it was safer to fit in.
- I always had an urge to do bigger and greater things, but I was afraid I wasn’t ready nor experienced enough to venture out from my corporate job.
I was stuck constantly waiting for someone to give me permission to be, do, or have the things I really wanted in my life.
In my opinion,YOU are the only person holding yourself back and YOU are the only person responsible for the outcome of your life and YOU are the only person who can get you out the situation you don’t want to be in.
So give yourself permission to follow your heart’s desire, by pursuing your goals and dreams.
Make the decision today, to be yourself and stand out and everything else in your life will follow you and you might even experience miracles.