Why some people succeed or appear to have it together while most of us struggle with worry and uncertainty?

It’s not “hard work” as most people think because some people work as hard and have the same drive, but they are still far from where they want to be.

If you aren’t getting what you are wanting in your life, the first person you should point a finger at is you.

Not is a harsh self judgement kind way but more of a self review. Here are a few tips to help with yourself review

1.  Integrity


Integrity is one of the most misunderstood and misused words. Most people mistake integrity with honesty, but integrity is more than that.

Integrity is telling my-self the truth, honesty is telling the truth to other people.

It simply means who you are, what you say and what you do match. To achieve full integrity you need an inner sense of ‘wholeness’ and consistency of character.

When you are ‘whole’ and consistent, there is only one you. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind.

In other words you don’t have a ‘work you,’ a ‘family you,’ and a ‘social you.’ You are authentic YOU all the time.

Because you are being authentic you, others trust you.

The opportunities that come from life of integrity are tremendous. Many people who have it together have integrity.

Real integrity is doing the right thing knowing nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not Oprah Winfrey

2.  Honor Where You Are Right Now


This is another reason why some people succeed and others fail. Where you are right now is always connected to where you are going. What you are doing now and most importantly how you are doing is the biggest indicator on what’s coming next.

The amount of honor you give to your current responsibilities are directly related to the amount of favor that will be given to you.

Love where you are, if for example you are in a job you feel stuck in and unmotivated.Take another look and try to make the best out of a negative situation. Life is all about learning. Appreciate where you are as its preparing you for the next step in your journey

3.  Honor Your Mentors


To get the most out of where you are right now, find mentors to work with. Find people who are living the life you want to live. 

The cheapest ways to learn is to learn from someone else and learn through their mistakes

The most successful people in the world attribute their success to their mentors.This is why some people succeed while other don’t.

Audrey Hepburn was a mentor to Elizabeth Taylor; Christian Dior was a mentor to Yves Saint Laurent.

Of course we are not going to get these big names as our mentors but you get the idea.

Oprah said this to Barbara Walters “had there not been you there would never have been me”

Find good mentors in your field and learn from them.The people who appear to have it together understand this, they go out there and learn from those who have achieved what they want to achieve and do it 100 times better.

Today there are so many different ways you can access mentors from reading books, documentaries, attending work shops and watching online videos.


4.  Look after Yourself First


Every day spend time in silence in meditation or prayer to quieten your thoughts, wake up early and spend time with yourself in nature and journal your thoughts.

Set out your intentions for the day, this is not a to do list! But intentions on how you want your day/week to unfold!

Don’t just rush out the door each morning hoping for the best; spend some time each morning creating the outcome you want.

We are co-creators of our lives, nothing good will happen if we just sit and watch things to unfold before our eyes .Setting up intentions everyday and living in the now will help us  create the life of our desires.

Self-care, self-love, compassion and forgiveness all come into play here too. It’s about being shameless about who we are. It’s about loving ourselves without judgement, guilt, shame and complete acceptance of who we are.

It’s only when we honor and accept ourselves  fully, we can change our lives and turn our dreams into reality.Therefore, looking after ourselves first is vital.

5. You Get What You Give


Ask yourself what are you currently receiving? Whatever you want to get in life try to be that thing first.

Take a look at your thoughts, are your thoughts filled with negativity? Fear, worry, anger, guilt, shame? These thoughts will sooner or later reveal themselves into the physical for example diseases, difficult relationships, career hardship, business losses etc.

When our minds are filled with negative emotions, the negative emotions in turn reflect back into our lives. Whatever movie is playing at the background in your mind, is what will be projected back in your life experience. 

Instead of focusing in what is going wrong in your life and what you don’t have, focus on what you want.


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